Are you having a Shi**y Day (SD)? If so then I am sorry because SD’s do by definition suck. But here are a few important things I want you to know.
- You are not alone.
- If you respond to your SD with a growth mindset you will come out stronger than before and more consciously aware of how to live to your full potential.
- By fully diving into the tough emotions you will learn more about yourself and not only recover quicker than if you bypass the challenges and emotions but you will reach new heights with the knew knowledge and perspective you have gained.
- SD’s are a part of life. Expect them and welcome the lessons and opportunities they create for you to grow and lead a fuller more authentic life.
- Give yourself love. You deserve it.
My intention for writing this post and sharing my Shitty Day Success Toolkit (SDST) is to provide you with prompts to help you course correct and emerge from any SD’s victorious. Even if things are at this moment peachy for you, rotten apples are never too far away. This is is not me being negative Nancy this is me telling it how it is. This is life. We are often served sugarcoated BS which does us far more harm than good in the long-term. So let’s be real and serve it straight-up here. No artificial additives are present here.
We all have SD’s in varying degrees from start to end. We are all human and we should all expect them. What’s more they are actually good for us. Yet society has taught us otherwise. We’ve been conditioned to automatically answer the question, “How are you?” with a brief, “I’m fine” even if the reality is “I feel horrible, hopeless and miserable!” We want to look like we have our ducks in a row, that life is rosy and we are ticking the socially prescribed boxes of success. And guess what? This kind of behaviour is deeply destructive and only leads to an unfulfilled, untrue, mediocre life. I should know.
I used to be in a relationship with a wonderful human but one who would think it was ‘weak” to speak the truth of his feelings. He wanted to solve serious problems solo and never let on while he suffered in silence. His intentions were to appear together and look after and protect those he loved but it meant he abandoned himself and me in the process. In the end he hadn’t a clue what he wanted anymore. He was so far removed from what he really felt that he upped and left moving to the other side of the world to try and figure it all out.
Being vulnerable is hard. But it is where the magic happens. It is revealing who we really are. It is accepting ourselves, loving ourselves and knowing that this is what matters most in life. This is the beauty of living. It is where freedom is and judgement is not. It is the point where you can come fully alive, love wholeheartedly and dance to the beat of your own drum.
And I want this for you! I hope my SDS Toolkit will help you. And remember to remember
The Sh***y Day Success Toolkit (#SDST)
- However counterintuitive it may seem when the blues come – take a deep dive in.
- Allow yourself to feel, to look around, to explore the seabed and discover what lies beneath.
- Love yourself here. Love how deep your feelings can go. Love that the deeper you go the higher you will rise. Love yourself wherever you go.
- Face your fears. Face your feelings.
- What are they telling you? Go deep.
- What are the drawbacks and what are the advantages of being here?
- What can you learn from being here? What opportunities for growth are you being offered?
- What behaviour and actions can you take control over to get the best outcome?
- What do you need to accept and let go of?
- Who do you need to communicate this experience with?
- What do you need that you weren’t getting before? Who do you need to tell?
- Who can you call upon for support and extra strength?
- What are three things that you can do better from here?
- What acts of self-love can you now give yourself?
- What are you grateful for?
- Take a series of deep breaths. In through the nose and out for a longer exhalation through the month. (Ie in for four out for eight.)
- Stand up and shake it out.
- Now journal about the day and how it was to use this SDST.
- You are awesome.
- Give yourself a big hug and know that I (and the army of people going through similar things as you are now) are giving you one too.
- Try to retain a sense of perspective. In the grand scheme of things how does this SD fit?
- Try to retain a sense of humour. Laughter is the best medicine. (Click here to learn the benefits.)
- Everything is temporary.
- Everything is figureoutable.
- Surround yourself with people who can help to support you grow, evolve and love life.